Jun 7, 2023

“The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects.” 
– Alfred Kinsey

Beloveds,

My daughter is home from school for the summer, and we’ve been discussing weirdness and difference and the not-so-useful ways that “normal” works in our culture. This is a recurring topic for us, and it’s fun catching up on it after a year of new experiences in the world away from home (for her) and a year of reading and thinking (for both of us). I am currently reading this book, which in the midst of recounting the horrors of the twentieth century’s attempts to define and enforce normality, throws out the above 80-year-old quotation from a classic scientific study of human sexuality. Good fodder for our ongoing conversation, but reading this also occasioned a moment of pure joy for me–because this statement, which has the ring of universal truth to my ears, isn’t only about one narrow field of research, but about “the living world” in which I and we live and move and have our being. We are all different in many ways, and that is the astonishingly beautiful truth of what is. Amen. Glory be.  

Repeating a couple of reminders from last week’s note:

-Your delegates to General Assembly (June 21-25) are Kristin and Nat R, attending remotely; I will be in Pittsburgh for GA. Talk to any of us if you want to know more about the important business coming up for voting, and be aware that parts of GA are open to the public without charge.

-I will be on vacation for the month of July. Before I go, I will arrange pastoral coverage for emergencies, but if there’s anything about which you would like to talk, now is a good time to reach out!

Yours in all the pride and beauty and truth we can stand, 

Rev. Denise
RevDenise@gnuuc.org

May 10, 2023

Faith development is all we do.
Unitarian Universalism is the faith we teach.
The congregation is the curriculum.
~ Connie Goodbread

Friends,

I don’t know about you, but it feels to me that this week/month is a huge exercise in faith development. The curriculum is packed! (Translation: lots going on church for our congregation)

I hope you will join me this weekend for a number of chances to learn together: 

-On Saturday at 2 pm, we will gather to celebrate the life of David Frese, one of our founding members, with music, pictures, and lots of memories. Reception to follow. 

-On Sunday morning, immediately following our regular (learning-packed!) service, we will be treated by the Belfiglio family to a Mother’s Day luncheon in honor of the anniversary of the death of another GNUUC founding member, Barbara Belfiglio. 

-But wait, there’s more! Right after lunch, at 1 pm, we will gather for our Annual Congregational Meeting, during which we exercise democracy, voting to approve the slate of Board members and officers and the proposed budget for next church year, and conducting other important shared business.

It matters that we gather to mark loss and support each other, celebrate beloved lives that have been and continue to be well-lived, and attend to the health of our congregation, which relies upon both the relationships among us and the institutional structures which support our being together. It matters that we practice Unitarian Universalism, commit to living our values, and continue (over and over) the creation of our shared life. I hope we will see you this weekend.

Yours in faith development,
Rev. Denise
RevDenise@gnuuc.org

 Apr. 19, 2023

“How could we tire of hope?-- so much is in bud.
How can desire fail?-- we have only begun
to imagine justice and mercy, only begun to envision
how it might be to live as siblings 
with beast and flower, not as oppressors.”
–Denise Levertov, “Beginners”

Beloveds,

Today I am thinking about our legislature and gun violence (still…), about public policy that not only fails to protect our children but actively contributes to the deaths of citizens of all ages, about fundraising and budgeting and democracy, about spring and new growth and possibility, and yes, about hope. 

Thank you for being a community that can hold all this with me and with and for each other. I love being your minister, and I hope you are doing what you need to do to be connected and to stay hopeful.

Yours in imagining how it might be, 

Rev. Denise
RevDenise@gnuuc.org

Mar. 29, 2023

“It’s hard to be human.”
–David W. Lewis

Dear Ones,

We have a mantra of sorts in my household, articulated many years ago by my partner, David, and repeated many times. (Mostly by me. I seem to have a knack for gathering wise words from others and repeating them over & over–go figure.) “It’s hard to be human” turns out to be useful in so many situations when our thoughts and feelings seem inadequate to the task of making sense of human behavior and experience. For me, it suggests that whatever we’re facing isn’t so much senseless as it is difficult and arising out of the different complexities of different lives. It also suggests that extending grace and understanding and compassion as far as we can (without violence to ourselves) may be a good default response to cultivate.

It’s been a hard week to be human in Nashville. In the aftermath of Monday’s shooting, we are feeling many things, wondering what happened and why, worrying about safety, and casting about for ways to respond to tragedy that honor those most deeply affected and align with our deepest values.

Please be gentle with yourself in the coming days and know that I am here and available should you need a shoulder to lean on. 

Please be gentle with those around you and remember that some of them may be processing unthinkable grief or riding waves of fear. 

Finally, whatever your experience of this tragedy, please consider how our sorrow and care for each other and all our Nashville neighbors might be transformed into action, working for sane and sensible gun safety laws and recommitting to building a world in which every person is welcomed, included, and supported. 

Yours in sorrow and love, 

Rev. Denise
RevDenise@gnuuc.org

 Mar 8, 2023

“Between rocking the boat and sitting down, between stirring things up and peaceably going along, we find ourselves here, in community.”

–Manish K. Mishra-Marzetti

Friends,

Lots of planning going on these days: We are looking forward to springtime activities like eating outside, enjoying the memorial garden, our fundraising auction, the congregation’s annual meeting, and the stewardship drive that will make it possible for our Finance Team to propose a budget for members to approve at that meeting. 

Last Sunday, we talked about vulnerability during the service and sharing money and time after lunch. Lots of you are looking for ways to create justice and nurture love in our congregation and in our world!

Because concern around gender and sexuality issues came up several times, I wanted to suggest two possibilities for supporting work in the wider world that aligns well with UU/GNUUC values: 

1. The Tennessee Equality Project works tirelessly for the equality of LGBTQ people in Tennessee. Sign up for their email list at https://www.tnep.org/ (or connect on social media) to be in the loop to donate, learn, write/call our legislators, or join other Tennesseans in meeting with legislators. I find it very satisfying to read about what’s going on and immediately click through to let state legislators know what I think!

2. On Tuesday, March 21, Planned Parenthood is asking people of faith to participate in their Advocacy Day in Nashville, and UUs in Eastern Tennessee are planning to participate and have reached out to our congregation, hoping we will join them. Save the date; I’ll have more details to share later!

Yours in love and hope for justice, 

Rev. Denise
RevDenise@gnuuc.org

P.S. As I write, there are six hawks circling over the hill outside our windows! 

 Mar 1, 2023

“Amen. Blessed be.”
–Me
(concluding walking/swinging meditation yesterday)

Dear ones,

When new green things are growing and the sky is (really!) that color, nothing else needs to be said. 

Yours in peace and love for our campus,

Rev. Denise
RevDenise@gnuuc.org

 Feb 22, 2023

“What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?”
–George Eliot

Beloveds,

My heart is full these days. Wherever I turn, there is beauty and suffering, love and injustice, grace and difficulty. I hardly know how to focus my attention at times. 

One very strong claim on my attention is the vitality of our congregation and our call to be a force for love, among ourselves and within the wider communities of which we are a part. What does GNUUC live for? Whose lives do we make less difficult? Whose lives might we make less difficult if we turned our attention toward them? 

I am wondering how our commitment this church year to nurturing all whose paths cross ours (Board vision for 2022-23) might lead us to our future reasons for being as a community of love and justice. 

If you’d like to be part of a conversation about how GNUUC makes a difference in lives and in the world–about how we love–I encourage you to sign up for one of our listening circles. You can join us on Zoom Thursday evening or Saturday afternoon (registration required to get the Zoom link) or in person this Sunday after lunch. These conversations will take just a little longer than an hour, and those who participated last week had a good time, I hear. Read more in the announcement below, or simply sign up here.

Yours in love and so many possibilities,

Rev. Denise

RevDenise@gnuuc.org

 Feb 15, 2023

“May our love bless everyone.”

–Pool of Love, Alexa Sunshine Rose

Dear Ones,

I’ve been seeing the first signs of spring (birds getting busy, yellow things flowering), and I want to encourage you this week to think about your emergence from the hibernation of winter, too. I just happen to have a few suggestions:

A few GNUUC leaders and I hope you will join us for one of several listening circles being offered on the next two Sunday afternoons (at GNUUC, in person) and one afternoon and one evening next week/weekend on Zoom. These will be a chance to share with each other why GNUUC is important in our lives and to dream a little bit about possible futures for our congregation. We had an amazing time planning and practicing this circle experience and look forward to sharing it with you. 

Nashville Organized for Action and Hope (NOAH) is undertaking its every-few-years Listening Campaign (about which I consistently hear rave reviews from participants) to discern and select its action issues for the next few years. See the announcement below if you are interested in being a listener here at GNUUC, please say “yes” if a listener asks to talk with you, and save the date of April 30 to attend the NOAH Issues Convention to help represent GNUUC as we (the member organizations of NOAH) set our priorities for the upcoming years.

Finally, the General Assembly (GA) of the Unitarian Universalist Association (UUA), which takes place every June, is happening in Pittsburgh, PA this year. Maybe you’d like to attend in person or remotely? Please find more information below and consider if you’d like to represent our congregation as a delegate or just to meet other UUs and learn more about the exercise of democracy (and oh, so many other things!) in our larger movement. It’s going to be a busy GA, with a presidential election and lots of voting, including an amendment to the UUA Bylaws. 

None of us can do all of the good stuff there is to do. If you’d like help figuring out how to focus your springtime energies, I love a good discernment conversation–email me!

Yours in love and so many possibilities,

Rev. Denise
RevDenise@gnuuc.org

“Spring is coming…”
–Carrie Newcomer

Friends,

Imbolc Blessings to you all! 

Tonight & tomorrow, in the European-derived pagan traditions (and quite likely others I don’t know) the beginning of the end of winter is marked with the Festival of Imbolc. Make a cup of your favorite hot beverage and do an online search–it’s a rich tradition that arguably should be retrieved. It’s a time to think about fertility–early spring planting, fresh food to come, October babies!–and healing and blacksmithing and crafts. Brigid is a multi-talented patron; google her, too, while you’re at it.

Here’s one of my favorite end-of-winter/waiting for spring songs, from Carrie Newcomer: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLg1pCeiZUk

Yours in all that is not yet, and not soon, but surely coming,
Rev. Denise
RevDenise@gnuuc.org